prue126 asked: Could you possibly write all the things about sansa`s character. I have a couple guy friends who think she's nothing but a brat and I can't articulate it all as well you can. Please, thank you, :)
let me bullet point it for you, a list of defences:
- when the books open, sansa is 11. when the show opens, she is 13. THAT’S IT. THAT’S KIND OF THE ONLY DEFENCE YOU NEED TO MAKE BECAUSE WE ALL HAD THAT REALLY EMBARRASSING THING WE LOVED WHEN WE WERE PRE-TEENS. IT’S LIKE YOUR BIEBER/JONAS BROTHER THING, OR WHATEVER, WHEN YOU WERE 13 AND THEN YOU GOT TO MEET THEM AND THEY ACTUALLY PRETENDED TO LIKE YOU. ONLY SANSA’S JONAS BROTHER HAD HER DAD KILLED SO REALLY JUST CUT HER SOME SLACK IT IS A PRE-TEEN CRUSH GONE WRONG
- which will lead to the inevitable ‘but arya’s younger and SHE’S not an idiot’ which oh god lol, it’s almost as if girls are individuals with individual personalities isn’t it, it’s almost as if they react in different ways to the same situations because they are not the same carbon copy. when the books open - they are both naive. they are both stupid. they both buy into an ideology that has no physical worth or basis in westeros. it’s just that we’ve positioned ourselves with arya because HER delusion is something we can get behind and pretend is true. sansa’s delusion is that princes are charming and queens are kind and knights are good. arya’s delusion is that SHE, on an individual level, can dish out revenge and her father can do it and ‘if you told the truth, mikah would be alive.’ which HAH. not true. both of them have their own delusions and it’s just that sansa’s delusion is based in that old idea of chivalry that we scorn because SILLY GIRLS BELIEVING SILLY THINGS, whereas arya’s delusion - still based in the same idea of chivalry - is a revenge fantasy, an individualistic successful rebellion against something that cannot be defeated on an individual level; which is coded as male. so we scorn the princess but we believe in the false chivalric system that put her in the tower. believing in robin hood, after all, is easier to do than believing that a prince will come and save the princess.
- that metaphor made sense in my mind but i don’t know if it did out of it.
- also, AHAH yeah sansa is stupid for believing the queen is going to do good by her and telling her that their ship is leaving but ned isn’t for warning cersei that he knows about her incestuous brotherfucking? mmmm smells like double standards, tell your friends that.
- oh im getting increasingly worked up (not at you you’re lovely) so i’m going to get a bit incoherent and sarcastic
- maybe another thing you could do is READ THE BOOKS TO YOUR FRIENDS. namely, sansa’s stint as alayne stone. namely, sansa saying ‘i am loyal to my beloved joffey’ because she is PLAYING THE GAME. not for power or money but to SURVIVE. which is what the stark sisters’ arcs are all about - survival.
- valar morghulis/valar dohaeris? all men must die, all men must serve? arya’s means of survival is by killing the girl (a really terrifying examination of her growing dissociation as a child killer, btw, not something to glorify??) and sansa’s survival hinges on her ability to serve other people until, tada, she doesn’t?
- like, just life advice - but the entire story becomes SO MUCH BETTER once you stop pitting sisters against each other and realize that they are two parts of the same whole, that they have the same arc separated by thousands of miles, that they both become other people to survive in westeros and BOTH of them are starks, both of them are wolves.
- but mostly don’t say anything because when sansa becomes queen in the north you can shove it in their shocked faces and go HAHAHA WHO’S LAUGHING NOW here is some reading comprehension.